So many people have not mastered the art of not giving a shit and it takes a toll on our emotional and mental health. Social media has made it even harder to not give a shit when everything is right in your face and the algorithm brings you more of what you look at the most. There’s drama all around us and it’s difficult not getting caught up in it. I find myself championing for worthy causes and getting into arguments with people I don’t even know in real life. So exactly how do we not give a shit what people think? Let’s talk about it and see how I can help you with this shall we?
The subtle art of not giving a shit takes practice and time. If you are an empathetic person who has a high sense of justice, it can make it difficult not to get involved but where do we draw the line? What causes are worth our frustrations and what causes are we screaming at with no real movement on the part of those we are trying to convince? Let’s start with the simple. What do you feel like when you are putting your two cents into the pot of a topic? This is tricky because we typically have high emotion about things we are passionate about so I urge you to look at things like high anxiety, nervousness, aggression, rumination, and general feelings of ill repute. I have a rule that I do not argue with people, I have open minded discussions with people. I seek to express my opinion and listen to the opinions of others. If someone is holding to their stance against all scientific data, lived experiences of others, and facts then chances are you are in an argument and you are going to end up mad and drained at the end of it all.
I encourage you to tune into yourself during those moments. If you are on social media, type your response and then pause before you send it. Read it and then decide whether it’s worth sending. Sometimes it may be sometimes it won’t. Next I encourage you to truly look at what you are “fighting” for. Are you coming from the truth of the situation that’s got you stirred up or a past situation that you are pulling into this one? We are the sum of our experiences and efforts to change. We will have times when we are reacting to the past and not the present. It will do you good to ask yourself this question when you are worked up over something. If this is you, don’t be discouraged. You can’t change something that you didn’t know about. You can begin today, always start with a pause when you feel that rush that pushes you to the edge. You don’t have to jump over headfirst.
If you are passionate about something chances are you give a shit about it. Remember that when going into discussions (not arguments) about things. Some things just aren’t worth your energy and the sooner you realize that you are giving all of your energy to Randall who believes that women should cook, clean, have sex, and birth babies at the demand of their men AND he has absolutely no effect on your life, the sooner you’ll not get in the ring with him. It serves no purpose and you’ve wasted energy that could better be used to help someone who wants to change. I said all of that to say, gauge whether a thing is worth your time. HOT TIP: Most things in life that get you very upset aren’t worth your time and time is valuable.
The art of not giving a shit is difficult but it is worth it. Taking the time to ask yourself “Is this worth my time” will save you a lot of trouble in the end. You can care deeply about some shit and not at all about other shit. It’s up to you but don’t let anyone dictate what you choose to care about when your peace is most important. Stand up for yourself and others, be kind, and don’t get pulled into giving a shit about something or someone that doesn’t give a shit about you. Thanks for reading!
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